Posted by: njrigg | December 25, 2010

We Remember Them



By Nancy J. Rigg

We remember Bradley William Miner

In December, families around the globe gather to honor their loved ones during the annual Worldwide Candle Lighting Service, sponsored by The Compassionate Friends (TCF), a self help organization that offers friendship, understanding, and hope to bereaved parents, siblings, grandparents, and all family members who share losses…

2017 Candle Lighting Service – December 10th Information:

Members of The Drowning Support Network (DSN) – who have lost children, grandchildren, siblings, nieces, and nephews – are offered an opportunity to participate in Candle Lighting Services hosted by local and national chapters of The Compassionate Friends worldwide.

We remember Henry Badillo

Here are excerpts from from past services, including photos of DSN members, whose names were read out loud, listed in programs, and remembered quietly by family members worldwide, who are missing them.


Our first candle represents our GRIEF

The pain of losing you is intense, like a river raging deep inside us.

It reminds us of the depth of our love we will always have for you.

Children we remember, though missing from our sight.

The second candle symbolizes our COURAGE

To confront our sorrow, to comfort one another.

Days of yesterday are woven into our hearts.

We will hold onto life and the love you brought to us.


We remember Earl Higgins

The third candle we light for MEMORY

We remember Carlo Wertenbaker

For the times you filled our lives with wonder and touched us with surprise.

You always had that something special, deep within your eyes.

No night is too dark that cannot be brightened with the memory of you.

You will forever be our treasured gifts.

The fourth candle we light for our never dying LOVE

We light this candle that your light will always shine.

We cherish the special place in our hearts that only you can hold.

We thank you for the gift that your living brought to us.

Our angels gone before us, who taught us perfect love.

~ Author Unknown

We remember all Drowning Support Network loved ones


Remembering James Clark

In the rising of the sun and its going down,

We remember them.

We remember Kristal Thomas, who drowned along with her dad, Leelan Thomas, when he tried to rescue her

We remember Chance Nainoa “Malu Boy” Almarza

In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter,

We remember them.

Church deacon, meditating in front of DSN photo montage

In the opening buds and in the rebirth of spring,

We remember them.

In the blueness of the sky and the warmth of summer,

We remember them.

In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn,

We remember them.

In the beginning of the year and when it ends,

We remember them.

We remember Jordan Trowsdale, who drowned on Christmas Eve 2009

When we are weary and in need of strength,

We remember them.

We remember Daniel Willams, with his mum, Penny

We remember Chloe Acosta

When we are lost and sick of heart,

We remember them.

When we have joys we yearn to share,

We remember them.

So long as we live they too shall live,

For they are now part of us, as

We remember them.

~ Jewish Book of Prayer

We remember Joseph Keller

As the names of  loved ones who have died are read, Karen Taylor-Good’s song, “Precious Child,” is sung, while candles are lit and placed in front of photos on the remembrance altar.

Special candles are lit, “for those who are unnamed, but not forgotten,” and “for all our service men and women, our nation’s children, who gave their lives.”


Please click on this link to hear the song, “Precious Child:”




We remember Morrey Brown




Remembering Charley Alison Gee

Remembering Kira Reddick

We remember J’Mari Johnson

Remembering Evie Grace Ewart

Remembering Brody Austin Carrick

We remember Cody Landreth

We remember Phil Dillon

Remembering Sam Ligtermoet

We remember Grant Bruce, and his daddy, Jeff Bruce, who drowned together, when Jeff tried to rescue his son

We remember Susan K. Feistel Mallet

We remember Rory Nathan



  1. Nancy, this is just beautiful. Wonderful photos and words. Thank you.

  2. Thank you! How beautiful! As the aunt of Henry Badillo, who drowned with three friends almost 8 years now, I cannot express how much it means to me that Henry continues to be remembered in such a beautiful way.

  3. I cried when I read this and saw the all photos, so many of which I recognise since having become a reluctant member of the DSN….thank you Nancy, really from the bottom of my heart, for your undying support and for including my darling Daniel in this remembrance and for keeping his memory alive here.
    Wishing for a little peace for all of our members for this coming year and longer…
    Penny (mother of Daniel Williams who drowned 29.03.2002)

  4. Nancy, I have not been online much over the holidays but was guided to look at this wonderful tribute by Karen – we had a lovely phone conversation this morning and she told me there was a beautiful photo of James. In fact, James posed for me to take that portrait on Mothers Day 2005, I remember the day well and how we joked about his looking like James Dean …. too prophetic words! I know my sadness is echoed by each and every other mother who loses a precious child, not just the mothers, but of course there is the effect that reaches out across whole families, siblings and peer groups. There is comfort in seeing these other wonderful young people’s images ….. we know we are not alone and we have the great mutual support of others who truly understand our position. Thank you Nancy for representing so many people with the service, the tribute and all the sterling work you do to bring DSN to the notice of those who need it. With love and light to all xxxxx

  5. Nancy,
    This is such a beautiful tribute to all our wonderful children.
    Those words…so heartwrenching…yet comforting.
    Their light will always shine, yet together their lights will shine on for eternity.

    Fiona xxx
    Proud Mummy to Jordan 31.01.1996 – 24.12.2009

    I wish there was something else i could say, but just feeling numb…

  6. Beautiful Nancy!

  7. Oh Nancy, thank you for putting Kira’s picture up here. You mean so much to me, and have helped in so many ways. Thank you.

  8. Am just stopping by to show some love it has been a while. J’mari’ great grand mom wishes you a Happy Thanksgiving because we are Thankful for time we had with our love ones. Take care of yourself’s we will always remember and keep them deep in our hearts.


    • Shirley, we remember J’mari – your beautiful and dear great grandson. Thanks for stopping by!

      With love,


  9. Means the absolute world to me Nancy, can’t thank you enough xxxx

  10. Such beautiful tributes that I cried for each one again and again….

  11. Thank you to all the Drowning Support Network families who have allowed us to honor your loved ones as We Remember Them during the worldwide candle lighting event sponsored by the Compassionate Friends.

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